Your relationship with your self is mirrored in all your other relationships. If you believe that you are unworthy or just not good enough than the people around you will think “Hey, he/she is really not that special”. If you believe in yourself and are self nurturing,then you will be moving in more meaningful directions and this will be reflected in all your relationships, personal and professional.
There are number of ways to develop healthy self esteem and self worth; to begin with, you need to recognize what is really important to you, in life. Therapy can help but one simple step that anyone can put in place with immediate effect is to set some goals for your self and your future.
There was a media success a few years back; a DVD and a best selling self help book, called The Secret which could be summed up in one sentence :You become what you think as in, your thoughts define you. Unhappy people think about their problems and fears while successful people think about their goals and remain positive and future focused. Living without goals is like driving at night without your headlights, you can’t really see where you are headed. Your goals need to be personal, professional, spiritual and health related. You can ask yourself the miracle question, which is: If by magic or a miracle you could change anything in your life, what would your life look like after it had been magically changed? Picture where you would be living, what your family and health would look like and what would you be doing professionally? Make a list of goals, at least five or more, and keep them specific and measurable.
When you think about doing something meaningful, reflect on what have been your greatest accomplishments to date and then which one has been the most compelling? When you think about your career, determine what you need to do to become an expert in your field, identify weaknesses and dedicate yourself to lifelong learning. If you are still looking for a lifelong companion, make a character list of what your ideal companion would be like in terms of age, education,values and attitudes. Be sure to also include the non-negotiable in terms of what you will not compromise.The old adage “Do what you love and love what you do” is one half of the happiness equation, the other half is loving the right person. If you are already in an established relationship, remember, you get what you give. The more you care for the happiness and well being of the person you love and the more unconditional the acceptance, the more rewarding your family life will be. To be a great parent, you simply need to love your children, accept them, be there for them and encourage them. It takes patience and persistence as life will bring adversity and relationships can be fraught with difficulties. However ,the bottom line is that high quality relationships offer the greatest and most meaningful happiness in life