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Are you a Couple in Recovery from an Addiction?
Now that you’re in recovery, do you want to repair your relationship? Not sure how to talk to your partner about their recovery or addiction? Do you feel that you are having the same fight over and over with your partner about an addictive behavior?
Addiction in Relationships
Couples struggle with Addiction and Recovery in Two Main Ways: When a Problems Arise in Your Recovery or an Addiction Causes Problems in Your Relationshipand When Problems in Your Relationship Lead to Addictive Behaviors.
Addiction is Causing Problems in My Relationship
Addictive behaviors may temporarily soothe and distract you or your partner from the pain and isolation. However, addictions will likely leave you unhappy and significantly damage your relationships.
A vicious cycle begins as the relational tension resulting from the addiction creates a dynamic that is continuously triggering for the substance-abusing partner, making it more difficult to stop.
The partner that is not using often feels hurt and anger, feeling solely responsible for maintaining the relationship. It’s no surprise that this starts to build resentment.
Problems in My Relationship Worsen Addictive Behaviors
In relationships, everyone seeks to find closeness, comfort, and understanding. When these needs are not met, you may not always react in healthy ways. Perhaps one of you gets defensive and the other withdraws. Communication breaks down because partners don’t hear or understand what the other is trying to communicate.
When this happens, the underlying needs for closeness are not met- increasing the conflict and patterns of blame and shame.
This is how couples get stuck in a cycle- leaving them feeling more disconnected, hurt and alone.
Sometimes, you or your partner may form damaging patterns by turning to substances or an addictive behavior.
Substance use or other addictions are a band aid and a way to self-medicate when your most important needs for connection are neglected.
Couples Counseling Can Help You Heal from an Addiction
Therapy can help couples learn to engage on a level that fosters connection and security rather than hostility, escalation and detachment.
A new positive cycle can be created in couples counseling to bring closeness, support sobriety, and heal.
Our relationships greatly facilitate the recovery process. An addicted person is often better able to sustain recovery when there is a sense of connection, love and trust in their most important relationships.